And Utah was the only place I could think of offhand that seemed more sexually repressed than any of the other states. You can’t legally buy hard core porn there, just soft core stuff. And they have almost no competition in sex toys, just a few specialty shops. -But the ones they have are full of cool people

But I digress. The more “classic” porn didn’t have a lot of money shots, and when they did they were less “vanquishy” and more “see, the guy came too.”

And that’s my only point here. For me, seeing the guy come in porn turns me on because, aside from pleasing my partner, I want to orgasm, too, particularly when I’m jerking off, which is about the only time I watch porn. So it’s nice to see that the guy got off, as I can imagine and place myself there. When there’s no cumshot, unless the male actor really *acts* and makes it obvious he came, it’s kinda confusing to us simple men. “Huh? It’s over? Next scene? But was the last one finished?”

Male orgasm is such a visceral, immediate experience that doesn’t quite transfer to film without a visual representation, a symbol to lock on to and say, “ok, he had that which I am familiar with.”

But yes, in general, particularly when looking at modern porn, and stuff guys share on the internet (see cheggit.net and whatboyswant.com) it does often seem that men are obsessed with cum these days. Kinda silly.

But I do have to say – cum is not always the verification of verility. I don’t want kids, so my husband had a vasectomy (ie, he doesn’t have sperm but still “cums”). Does that make our sex pointless? Take it from me, it makes for a pretty good time.

And why do we have to go to Utah to appreciate sexual freedom?

And I think obsess is a little too much of a word. Men don’t spend every moment thinking “CUM” like women might on shopping. (See, how’s that for a generalization?) But we’re simple creatures and like to feel good. We like visual things, and cumming we can understand. You can watch sex in a different language and not understand any spoken word, but the mmmm, ahhhh, ohhhh, and of course cumshot, is universal.

As for the porno movie part, Yes, we get that it’s ACTING. It’s the same thing that happens in your chick flick movies. You might not all get to be princesses, but you like watching that shit because you can transfer yourself into an imaginary place where some colin firth, jude law, hugh jackman, or whomever you might find sexy will sweep you off your feet and make you a princess. (Again, another generalization) And you know what? IT’S OKAY TO IMAGINE. It’s okay to have a brief fantasy life as long as it dosn’t fuck up your normal life.

And if it REALLY seems as if every guy is obsessed with cum, then you probably need to lay off the sex movies or something. Go to Utah and appreciate what sexual freedoms you have rather than complain about what makes other people happy.

My boyfriend is disgusted by the stuff. It took me three weeks to convince him to LET ME GIVE HIM A BLOWJOB as a result. And even then, a week to let me uh, finish what I’d started. He gets major brownie points, however, because he’ll always kiss me after.

He also apologizes every time I get up to go to the bathroom after condomless sex. He doesn’t get the whole peeing-after-sex things means no UTI. The leaking thing doesn’t happen so much once you figure out how to go about cleaning up.

Orgasm = happy, for all parties. I’ve just learned to deal with the male byproduct. And now that I’ve left WAY too much information that I’m sure you didn’t want to know… Going back into the Lurker Closet.